How to Stop Being Jealous - 3 Tips to Help You Move on With Your Life

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Jealousy can have a lot of power over you and keep you locked in the past if you don't so something about it. As jealousy is such a powerful emotion, it can also be a great source of motivation. However, it can be hard to think of jealousy as a positive and motivating force when jealousy takes hold of you. There are some things you can do to stop being jealous so you can move on with your life.

#1: Don't Compare Yourself To Others

Stop comparing yourself to others, especially the person you are jealous of. If someone manages to beat you at a race or competition, or achieve something that you want, use that feeling as motivation towards reaching your own goals.

Take a step back and have a look at what you need to do to achieve your own personal goals. Make step by step plans on how to get there. Get focused on what you want and how you are going to get there. Try not to get frustrated or feel that your situation is hopeless. Don't be critical or harsh of yourself. Don't get bitter about your situation. This will just keep you in that jealous frame of mind and keep you locked in the past.

This isn't simple to do. But if you give it a try, it will help you let go of your jealousy and get you focused on what you want, and how to get there. Jealousy can be as destructive or as positive as you want it to be. Learn from what's happened and you will grow as a person. Chances are, you'll end up accomplishing a lot more than what you thought you were capable of doing.

#2: Admit That You Have A Problem With Jealousy

One of the first things you can do to stop being jealous is admit that you are jealous. When jealousy takes hold, a lot of people can be in denial. They claim that they are not jealous, but you can see that they are. And you can also see the strong effect jealousy has on them, and just how destructive jealousy can be.

Acknowledging your jealousy is a vital step in overcoming it. The more in denial you are about your jealousy, the stronger a hold jealousy will have over you. This can also help you to overcome any anger or resentment you may be feeling.

Once you admit to yourself that you are jealous, you can begin to heal yourself of your jealousy and move on with your life. You can talk to others about how you are feeling to get jealousy out of your system. This can help.

#3: Focus On What Is Good About Yourself

When jealousy takes hold, you can feel rejected and really awful about yourself. In some ways, you start picking on yourself and blaming yourself for what's happened. The more you think about your jealousy, the more you focus on the negative aspects of yourself, and get sucked into this vortex of self-loathing. This keeps you in this jealous frame of mind, stops you from moving on with your life and prevents you from getting what you want.

Don't disregard your strengths and your abilities. Write them down and put them some where you can see them. This may sound silly, but it can help to remind you of just how much you are capable of accomplishing. This can also help you to stop being jealous, get you focused on what you want and help you move on with your life.

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